Sigh, it never ends. Or should I say, it’s started all over again.
And I’ve learned a valuable lesson, that sometimes the shitty things that happened to us in the past really are for the good. Back then, I was too in love to see just how big a narcissist he is. That it was all about him. But I learned. Oh, yes, I learned a hard lesson.
So you guessed it. I received another middle-of-the-night email, from the guy who dumped me like trash, who told my friends that he never cared about me, never loved me, the guy who made me feel like crap for a very long time. The guy who, in the end, automatically sent my email to the deleted folder and sent my phone calls straight to disconnect. I received an email, from that guy, whining about how I was hurting him just because I suggested he go fuck himself. Actually I wasn’t that mean or that blunt in my reply. But I was direct. I explained how he had hurt me and that I wasn’t particularly happy to hear from him after nine years of silence, nine years of him pretending I didn’t exist, that we didn’t exist. And that I hated him for hurting me, again.
He said, and I quote, “If you wanted to sucker punch me in the gut and watch me writhe on the floor, you succeeded. I had no idea you harbored that level of ill feeling and hatred for me over all these years. My memories hold something far different.”
I’m sure his memories are different. He’s a narcissist. And if he didn’t know I was angry and hurt, if he didn’t know that he nearly destroyed me, then he apparently wasn’t paying attention to anyone but himself. I’m not a particularly forgiving person, not then and not now. And I’m certainly not going to forgive or forget someone treating me like that. Not going pretend he wasn’t a dick all those months he jerked me around. Not going to pretend it was okay for him to act like I meant nothing to him in front of everyone and then turn around and send me emails in the middle of the night saying how much he missed me.
And I’m not going to welcome him back with open arms just because he misses me after nine years.
But as I said, even though I feel really stupid for ever caring about this guy, for still harboring enough love for his emails to screw me up all over again, this gives me tons of writing material. Although, if I were to use his personality, verbatim, no one would believe it, because it seems improbable that someone could be that self-involved. So, sadly, if I use him in a story, I guess I’ll have to give him a couple of redeeming qualities.
Thanks for listening.